I’ve decided that flexibility will be the key to success. I spent a couple of hours with my son, figuring out all that we could, should and would do each day. We now have a Brier Patch Academy daily plan that includes not only reading and writing and arithmetic, but chores and exercise. We tried it out on Friday, but almost immediately realized we needed to swap things around in order because we were going out for lunch. No problem. We still managed to get through quite a bit. Next week we’ll start over, with our adjusted schedule and see how that goes. If it doesn’t work, we’ll change it. See? Flexible!
One of the things I’ve added to our schedule is writing time. Some in the morning, some in the afternoon. I’ve set myself a goal of completing the draft of one chapter a week and I’ve outlined the book into about 12 chapters. I am determined NOT to edit until the first draft is complete. This is ALWAYS where I bog down and fail. I keep editing and re-editing the same chapters until I’m sick of it and the writing is technically correct but I’ve sucked all the life out of it.
Another addition to our schedule is gardening. I realized after my husband got his job offer this week, that I’ve been avoiding my garden because I was afraid I would lose it. Last year at this time I had beautifully double dug beds and early plantings protected with row cover and plastic. This year, nada. So today I’m going to get out and start cleaning up the flower beds around the house. We lost a ton of soil and mulch in a big wind storm in February so it’s time to dig up the chicken run and use all that lovely compost to build up the beds again. I’ve got two truckloads of tree bark to replace all the decorative mulch that was blown away.
I can’t whine about it too much. After all, I live in the high desert Sierra mountains. A little wind, a little drought, temperature that ranges 50 degrees in one day – that’s the price we pay for living in the most beautiful place in the world.
Gotta go. There’s chicken poop to be scooped.
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I’m not a big sports nut, but you know how the home plate umpire yells “SAFE” when the runner slides onto the base just as the ball lands in the catcher’s mitt? That’s how I feel right this minute.
My husband got a job.
Just writing that brings up such an amazing mix of emotions. Relief. Joy. Pride. Gratitude. Did I mention relief? We can keep our wonderful house. I get to be the stay at home mom and home school my son. I get a chance to write my novel. I can cook and clean and entertain and get involved in the community.
My head is spinning with possibilities. I might need to lie down. Or dance naked down the street. Okay, maybe not naked, but perhaps exuberantly dressed.
Gotta go. I need to draft out a project plan for my new life.
Gratitude is a muscle that must be exercised. Since the layoff, I’ve been focusing on my blessings more than my challenges, which makes a lovely change. Today I am feeling grateful for the view from my office window.
My desk has an amazing view of the snow capped peaks of the Sierras, trees, blue sky and sunshine. There are two huge trees on my side of the house that provide shade (once we get some leaves) and some pretty amazing bird activity. Once we had a pair of mating, then nesting falcons – totally cool. There is a battered old sofa that must be 40 years old, possibly more, that makes a perfect spot for a cup of tea and a good read. My friend Meredith sent me a Route Master blanket that keeps my knees warm and makes me dream of double decker buses in London. Book cases line the walls, filled with books I’ve read and enjoyed and one or two that I’ve not read. Someday I may get around to those, too. I have a stereo that has both a CD and a cassette player so I can entertain myself with 80’s mix tapes and my collection of audio books or try something more modern.
In this room I write, sort papers, do taxes, hunt for jobs, play solitaire and rest. I spent several days going through junk and weeding out books and papers that I don’t want or need anymore. It feels more peaceful than it did when it was full of stuff. I’ve probably spent more time in there in the last month than I have in the last year. It’s my space. A room of my own.
How lucky I am.
Where does the time go? it is April 2015 and my last post was over a year ago. Funny how long ago and yet five minutes that feels. As most of you know, I got laid off last month. The thing that has been most interesting is how happy it made me. I’ve been so stressed out and miserable for the last year. I kept telling myself that it would get better, that new management always means some chaos. Instead, it got worse and then, out of the blue, a layoff.
Reduction in Force. RIF. I keep having flashes of myself on a surf board for some reason, but I think that’s a rip tide. So here I am, riding my own RIF tide. I’ve applied for a lot of jobs in my field of expertise. I can’t say I’m very excited about getting most of them, but they would pay the bills.
I’ve also applied for some writing gigs. Part time, random time, any time sorts of things that probably won’t pay the bills. But they make me happy just to think of doing them.
So what if we took on a boarder and cut our expenses? Cashed out my retirement and paid off bills? What if we lived off unemployment for a while and I just…write?
What if’s are the dreams that we dare to speak out loud.
I’m reading (or maybe re-reading, it seems awfully familiar) Martha Beck’s book the Four Day Win. I’m at the part where she has you try writing questions with your dominant hand and answers with your other hand. First I felt really stupid. Then bored because as far as I could tell, my left hand was writing the same things my right hand would have written. I kept at it for a bit, maybe 10 minutes out of the recommended 15 and then something weird happened.
Then I started to cry very, very quietly.
Afterwards I felt sleepy and oddly peaceful.
I may have to talk to my left hand some more. Apparently there is something to this wacky technique after all.
I had a really good run from October to end of February. Exercising, eating right and feeling a lot less stressed. As soon as the Kaia BRIK was over, I thought, hey, I can keep right on making progress. I was dreaming of another five pounds and another pant size down.
The reality is that for 10 days I did pretty much nothing but sit around and eat. Watching tv and playing the incredibly addictive solitaire game on my iphone. I worked. A lot. Too much, maybe. But I have a new project and that always sucks me in until I feel like I have a handle on it. Early morning meetings with Mumbai and late meetings with Shanghai. Finally I put the workouts in my calendar and blocked out the time before and after, too. Still possible to get invitations, but won’t feel as guilty about declining them.
Made it to a workout on Tuesday. This morning I started cleaning my bedroom which was reflective of my mental state, so not pretty. Piles of clothes and accessories all over the floor and I actually can’t remember the last time I took out the garbage which is now reaching ridiculous proportions. I will also be able to pack up a box of really huge clothes that I was wearing in October last year. Yay!
So, time to roll up my sleeves and dig into my life a bit and give it some of the same attention as my job. Tended my little seedling garden in my sunroom and now I’m having coffee with my husband. Beautiful view of the mountains and mostly sunny blue sky. My son is sleeping upstairs and our dog is lying at our feet.
Life is good.